"This well-established psychological measure of closeness is known as
Inclusion of Other in Self and indicates a couple's "we-ness" or
shared identity, values, viewpoints, resources, and personality
traits."
http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2013-02/cums-wed021213.php
"I like to think of it as the bass player in the band. They are the
most underrated member of the band. But when there's no bass, the
whole thing sounds off somehow, and you can't put a finger on what
exactly is missing."
Vivek Haldar
PLAYBOY INTERVIEW: STEPHEN COLBERT
http://www.playboy.com/playground/view/playboy-interview-stephen-colbert?src=longreads
The interesting thing about grief, I think, is that it is its own size. It is not the size of you. It is its own size. And grief comes to you. You know what I mean? I've always liked that phrase He was visited by grief, because that's really what it is. Grief is its own thing. It's not like it's in me and I'm going to deal with it. It's a thing, and you have to be okay with its presence. If you try to ignore it, it will be like a wolf at your door.
'We're all we have, and Jesus, are we shitty to one another. We really are. The only thing that keeps us going back to one another is that we're all filled with such enormous self-doubt. We have doubts about our ability to be alone, to self-actualize.'
STEPHEN COLBERT
